She was the best... He was a good man...?

I think it's similiar too, it's just that women (being one myself) think very hard about what to say, as not to offend anyone in particular times of grief. While men, in my experience, say the first thing that comes to mind. "He was a good man." refers to that person in particular, while "She was the best." is an all around gesture, comparing the woman to all others. So, they didn't love each other differently in my opinion. :)